Don't Do It

Darn: I can't see the lists from the "Submit Argument" Page. There are a couple of things that jumped out at me.
"Doesn't drink / smoke / no kids." I learned a LONG time ago to AVOID being impressed with someone for what they DON'T do. (i.e. "At least he / she doesn't hit me.")

The other is Honest - you said she says everything she is thinking (and, according to the "con" list, that includes calling you ABUSIVE names, and putting your family and friends down)...seems to me you are euphemizing her lack of a filter (i.e. What is appropriate to say in certain situations v. what is not). There is a difference between being honest and having 100% disclosure (i.e. diarrhea of the mouth). They are not the same thing.

You're a self-purported 'nice guy' who has never made the choice to end a relationship - why not? Explore that. Did you believe (as did I once), that you were so value-less that you HAD to accept anyone who wanted to be in your life, just because they did, then be happy that anyone was interested in you at all?

Secondly, there is a difference between being a nice guy and a doormat. Doormats invite abuse into their lives. Nice guys are respectful and kind, but know their own boundaries and will staunchly defend them. Do you know your boundaries?

Here's something I consider when faced with a tough decision: What would I regret most? Picture your life married to her: what does it look like? Picture your life having broken up with her and moved on: what does that look like? What's the difference in those two pictures?

Good Luck and God Bless,
Kari