The side that seems more heavily weighted to me

You have a good start at your list, but if you want a bigger picture, I'll direct you to:

http://disc.yourwebapps.com/discussion.cgi?disc=243765;article=2;title=I...

Controlling (she limits my time spent with friends/family or on my own tasks) - this is HUGE as it's important for human health and longevity to spend time with friends and family; according to what I've read, spending time with people in your community (friends/family/neighbors/etc.) is a larger factor in lifespan than how you sleep, eat, exercise, or work. :O This alone would cross any potential partner off my list.

She gets frustrated with me & calls me names like "dumb", "stupid", etc. (I have attention deficit and am not organized, she is VERY organized) - another one that is HUGE as this is abuse and nobody should have to take abuse and if she is already calling you names when trying to get a ring out of you, what the heck is going to happen once she has not just the ring, but you wrapped around her finger in marriage?! Again, studies show that the number one factor in whether a marriage will last is how they treat one another...if there name calling during fights, that is a huge red flag that the couple won't last.

See http://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/11/science/to-predict-divorce-ask-125-que...

The title of the article was a mistake...it's actually *11* questions and not 125. Yeah, that simple.

http://www.isoulseek.com/sitebranches/relationskills/articles/6signs.pdf

"A harsh startup can lead the couple's discussion down a path of negative
interaction. This type of negativity can wreak havoc on a marriage. Indeed,
there are four types of negative interactions that are so lethal to a marriage
that Gottman has labeled them the Four Horsemen of Apocalypse.
"Usually these four horsemen clip-clop into the heart of a marriage in the
following order: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling"
(Gottman et al 27). The first of the lethal horsemen is criticism. Gottman distinguishes between
criticism and complaints, because one partner will always have certain
complaints about his or her spouse. Complaining about one's spouse is
normal, however, the way one goes about expressing these complaints is
most important. The problem arises when complaints turn into
criticisms. A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, while a criticism
attacks the character of the person."

"The second horseman, contempt, often follows criticism. Criticism can lead
to contemptuous comments directed at one's partner. Some examples of
contempt are when a person uses "sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eyerolling,
sneering, mockery, and hostile humor" (Gottman et al 29).
Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen because it communicates
disgust to the person it is directed toward. As a result, the conflict escalates.
It becomes impossible to solve a problem when the message being sent is
that one partner is disgusted with the other."

You might want to check out some of Gottman's books. I've had a very happy marriage (been with my husband for a little over 25 years now, nearly 24 in marriage) so haven't read his books, but might buy one for my son who has a history of getting involved with gals who don't support his spending time with friends and family (even with her there, like not wanting to go to parties or such) and have had other "red flags" flying.

She just recently quit her job due to a boss that was difficult to work with - do you know the boss and was he a jerk or does she have trouble getting along with numerous people? Or is this on the con side because she is currently unemployed and might have trouble finding another job? You said she has money saved and isn't in debt, so I am guessing she isn't someone who is often out of a job, right?

Good at pointing out negative qualities of friends/family/co-workers in my life - does she also point out the positive ones and thus is just trying to give you a bigger picture so you don't get stabbed in the back at work or something along those lines?

6 years older than me (her biological clock is ticking) - so is she wanting to have children before you are wanting to have children? As it is, it seems she is pressuring you to marry before you are really wanting to marry, so going from the marriage pressure to baby making pressure isn't good.

Talks a lot in group situations (she tends to take over conversations to prevent any risk of silence, which makes her feel uncomfortable) - females tend to talk a lot period, so if she is doing this in group situations and not just one-on-one, this might actually be a pro rather than a con! ;)