Stay

The first three points in your con list are the bigger issues. I think it is extremely positive that even when things did fall apart in his previous relationship he has maintained that which is extremely important i.e. his child. It says a lot about him as a person who has faced and been in a very difficult situation and his handling of it. I would suggest however that you find out reasons behind his first divorce before committing.

As for the rest of his Cons, his drive + stamina seems somewhat opposite to yours which is a good thing in a long term relationship i think simply because you need 1 person to drive and the other to happily come along. If you were both extremely forceful and stuck to your guns then the relationship wouldn't survive. Lastly, marriage/relationship is a materialistic thing hence you should have big bonuses in your relationship that will tide you over all the comprises that one makes during this time. Anyway...that is my two cents. Hope you decide what is best for you.