Can't Trust my Feelings

So my situation is a little messed up so bare with me....

3 months ago, I left a 6 year relationship with the love of my life. Soon after I met my current boyfriend. Everything happened so fast, By October 1st he was living with me, still is. I feel like I may be falling for him but it's so hard to tell because my last breakup is so fresh and new, i'm still mourning but this relationship is so fresh and exciting, I kind of feel guilty for enjoying myself so much. HOWEVER he is also soooo different from any man i have ever dated! I'm just not sure if I can trust my feelings in the state i'm in....

Pro: 

- I feel safe and protected with him
- He LOVES to cuddle (omg, I LOVE this about him!)
- He tells me he respects me so much
- He tells me he loves me so much
- He helps me around the house
- He is an AMAZING dad
- We are so different but have the same views on life. marriage and kids
- He is CRAZY handsome (whatever, it's still a pro!)

Con: 

- He has a crazy ex....who has his kid (baby mamma drama...)
- He is pretty jealous (even to the point he will accuse me of cheating on him with my girlfriend...)
- He's had a .... colourful past (think along the lines of abandonment, growing up in the system....etc)
- It's hard to talk to him civilly when he's angry. He will just yell and won't want to hear anything I have to say or let me expalin myself. So basically when we do fight, he yells, i don't say a word, fast foward a couple of hours and it's like nothing ever happened....but see, I went out Friday night and got home at 3am. He was sooooo pissed, we almost broke up and I had no idea he would be so upset I went out so late....
- He is going through his own thing with his ex and his kid....

Con arguments

rebound

Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 12/01/2011 - 04:24.

yeah he might be fun to hang out with and stuff, but after a 6 year relationship, you need to take a break. you don't need to jump into anything serious (especially if he has baby mama drama-you shouldn't have to deal with that!) take some time to really get to know who YOU are as a person, outside of a relationship. you owe it to yourself and your ex to kinda take a breather. you say he respects and loves you. but if he really did, then he would trust you and do everything he could to listen to you and not fight you. it sounds like he's using you for living space. you deserve better than that.

Rebound as well

Submitted by hellopretty03 on Thu, 03/29/2012 - 16:21.

I went through the same thing, I was in a horrible abusive relationship with my first love of 3 years. I started dating my now b/f of 4 years literally two weeks after the break up. We love the attention and affection and the feeling of being wanted by someone new and different. But I went through stages of my mourning and it affected my relationship because I didn't give my time to heal. I struggled with trust issues and insecurities because of that and still today. Looking back, I'm thinking that our relationship was just a rebound that made a beautiful 2 year old boy. And now I've settled and feel stuck:(

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