Do I stay or should I go?

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I have been with a guy (now my husband) for about nine years. We'll have been married for three this March. I really do love him but I feel that we are just not in the same place anymore. There is 15 years between us. He has three kids from his first marriage and although at 32 I want children (not tomorrow but) down the road he is waffling on the idea now that we're married and his kids are getting older. I feel trapped and not sure that this is what I am wanting in my life but I don't know if after all these years I known how to move on. Truly disconnect and start over. I have a great job and I don't need him to support me at all I do enjoy his company when I can pull his attention away from his drama and work. Do I stay or should I go?

Pro: 
  • He's a very nice man most of the time.
  • He can be generous.
  • He's funny/good sense of humor.
  • He can be caring.
  • We like to do some of the same things.
  • He has a nice sized #*&^$#*^ (I had to say it ;-)
  • We do get into each other sexually.
  • He can be a great friend when he's not distracted.
  • He lets me sleep in the nook of his neck at night.
  • He's social and fun to be around most of the time.
Con: 
  • He has kids already.
  • Doesn't seem to want more kids with me.
  • He's 47 and I'm 32.
  • His ex-wife causes him alot of drama and financial issues.
  • He can be lazy when it comes to work.
  • He's very disorganized and I don't want to become his mother.
  • He get's distracted by "his" issues and forgets about me at times.
  • He has put me in a position where I have to raise his 16 year old daughter because he's not around.
  • She now lives with us full-time.
  • He is too tired to have sex.
  • He's not sexy unless we are going out to a bar with other people.
  • He wants to be part of a sexual "lifestyle" that I don't want to be.
  • He wants to be out doing things all the time - hates to be at home.
  • Doesn't come home until late because of his work.
  • Likes to call names and blow up when I try to talk about our goals.
  • Doesn't want to set goals.
  • Only has one goal to be financially successful - where am I in there?
  • Moved us to the burbs and I want to be back in the city - he says no.
  • Has had trouble making enough money (due to the economy) to pay at least half the bills for a house that we bought because he needs more space for his kids that come over.

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