Do I Walk Away or Keep Fighting?

I dated my ex for 2 and a half years, until we ultimately broke up in May. Our relationship was a mess between each of us cheating, but still stayed together. We broke up after an issue that we both should have dealt with, when he just completely bailed as far as physically being there for me. In July, we started talking again, and spending time together. I've used these past several months to try to fix my past mistakes by being there for him, being loyal, supportive, honest, and open with my feelings. Meanwhile, he's continued to speak to other girls, hang out with other girls, and blatantly hit on them on Twitter. We're not together, so I just take his word he really loves me and isn't going to talk to anyone else. He says he just needs to focus on himself, and get his life and future together, and he doesn't want to have to feel obligated to be there for someone else, or have to be pressured for anything. He says he loves me, and I tell him I love him and miss him all the time. But with all this "cheating," and empty promises about spending time together only to be ditched for his friends or work, is making me think he really just doesn't want to be with me....not "anyone," and this is just some game until he finds someone else. I really love him, but it tears me apart when he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, cause he needs to get his life together and be happy with himself; I think this is just an excuse, and he just can't say he doesn't want to be with me in the future.

Pro: 

Sense of humor
Cute
Passionate about things he does (writing, etc.)
He puts me at ease
Smart
Good taste in music
Can balance going out and working
I love him
He's a good cuddler (sometimes he'll stir suddenly in the middle of the night if I move, and check to make sure I'm okay, like he's worried)
He's rescued me from way too many bad situations (no matter what time it is, or how far I am, he'll be there)
Very talented writer (it's inspiring, because I wish I had the nerve to pursue it)
He makes me feel sexy
Hard worker
He's becoming more and more open with talking about his feelings, and confiding in me about things that are going on with him.
He's becoming more financially independent

Con: 

Gemini
Calls me names/Puts me down when I tell him he's hurt me someway
Lazy (except when it comes to going to work)
Uncertain about his future (writer, astronaut, police officer, actor, etc.)
Doesn't want children
Hides things
Lies
"Cheats"
Makes plans to hang out with me, then cancels or ditches me to pick up an extra shift of work, or hang out with his friends, constantly.
Out of control temper
Never pays
Have never met his friends after 3 years
Mama's boy
He won't give me an all or nothing response about being together, and just keeps us hanging in this unoffical, non-labeled boyfriend girlfriend limbo.
Told me he'll always choose his friends over me
Can't "talk" about problems, just argue, blame, and name-call
Very jealous (he can talk to other girls, but if I'm honest and say I'm going to hang out with someone or I've just been texting someone, he loses it.)
When he talks about his future plans, he doesn't even consider me. (He talks about moving across the country, or joining the military.)
Not good with children
Poor social manners, when he's around people he doesn't know, like, or care about (he gets very rude, or completely quiet)
He's always hot and cold. He wants to talk, then he doesn't. He wants to hang out, then he doesnt. He's nice, then he's horribly mean and cruel.
Messy (never cleans up after himself -- even if I cook for him, he'll just let me clean everything up afterwards)
Obsessed with Facebook,Twitter, Friend drama

Con arguments

Walk away and hold your head high

I would walk away. As much as you two care for each other, it seems you have been doing the growing up and fixing yourself. Why not continue that streak and move on; find someone in the same spot as you. Obviously, its hard to walk away but sometimes you need it. I know in my past it benefited both of us and now we are both happier. My ex gets to flirt and be wild and I have someone who is emotionly at the same stage as me.

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