Get married or Brake it off

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I been in a relationship for 5 years. He helped my family through really tough times. My dad had a brain tumor for 2 years and he did not leave my side. My dad passed away and he was there for my family and me. He is a great guy with a huge heart.He proposed to me 2 years ago and been engaged since. He loves me more than anyone on earth. The problem is that he drinks alot and his personality changes and it can be scary sometimes. He has 2 DUI's and like 4 PI's. He has promised me that he was going to change and be better, but he does not do anything. I am so sad because I really do love him but he does not change his ways. I just found out that he had an e-mail that I did not know about and had been "sex talking" to other women that he does not know. I confronted him and he said he was sorry and purely sexual. For me that is a form of cheating.. I dont know if I should give it another chance or brake it off before he drags me down with him..

Pro: 

He is good looking
Loves me unconditionally
Loves my family and my family loves him.
We always have fun together.
Tells me he loves me everyday.
Supports me in anything I do and he is always there for me.
Love the way we are together, we are very much inlove.
We are bestfriends.
He thinks I'm the best woman in the world.
He wants to marry me and have children together.
Same religion.
We have alot in common.
Im happy with him, when he is sober.
We've shared many beautiful moments together.
We enjoy each others company and are very close.
We can cuddle all day/night.

Con: 

Has less drive and motivation than I do which can come off as laziness or complacency although I know he does work hard and take pride in doing a good job at his job.
He drinks too much.
Has 2 DUI's.
Has 4 P.I's.
He brakes promises.
He gives up very easily.
We dont have sex anymore.
I found out he had another email and had "sex talks" with other women.
He has embarrassed me infront of friends and family, only when he is drunk.
Has insulted me and lied to me.
Does not save money for our future or wedding.
He blames all of his problems on the world.
He does not tke care of his health which scares me because I lost my dad and I want a healthy man that can grow old with me.
He does not have a hobby.
I am always the one making the plans and pushing him to better himself, but he gives up too easily.
He stopped being romantic.
My life goals are way higher than his.
He believes that winning the lottery will fix all of his problems.
Has become very negative towards life.
I dont look at him the same way I used to after I found out about his emails.

Con arguments

good luck

Submitted by juliespears on Thu, 01/20/2011 - 04:26.

maybe rehab will work ...when i got married my husband was strong honest clean and loyal ....no hes none of that .....maybe rehab will help youYF

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