Going overseas while in a relationship?

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I am an 18 year old student living in Australia and I am of Hungarian background. My family and I will be going to Hungary for a month in December. This is fantastic news and I am very excited - my only stress is the boyfriend. I am in a serious relationship and it is my first serious relationship and I am unsure whether or not to bring him with me?

Pro: 

Gets to meet my relatives
great opportunity
will get to build up his photography portfolio
Hopefully won't feel as upset when I mention Hungary in the future
it will strengthen our relationship
we will get to move out sooner
I will get to do my course next year rather than taking time off to go overseas during school time
mum will be paying so it will be cheaper
will be amazing seeing mum really happy
we will probably get to stay with my grandparents
maybe go around europe
independance
cheap everything!!!

Con: 

he does't know the language
what will he do when i will be spending family time?
he would miss out on his christmas
im not sure if he will be able to save up in time
if i go now i will not be able to go in summer
awkwardness
it could also negatively affect our relationship

Con arguments

Go alone.

Submitted by weatherornot on Sun, 11/27/2011 - 16:58.

I would go to Hungary, but leave him in Australia. You are going to visit family, not so much to sight-see, so he would spend a lot of time feeling left out and/or like he was intruding (and your family might prefer to see just you). If he doesn't speak the language, he'll feel especially lost and excluded. You would have to spend literally all your time with him so that you could interpret; few things can kill a new relationship like spending too much time together. Think about how much you and he will have to talk about when you get back and have spent some time apart and had separate adventures. A month seems like a long time, but really it isn't. You'll be busy and the time will fly by. If he doesn't come, arrange for him to pick you up at the airport when you return; super romantic!

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