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My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 & 1/2 years. he broke up with me 2 days ago and now he wants me back.

Pro:

he makes me feel safe
he makes me laugh
we write poetry together
he is strong
he is so good looking
he has a great body
he loves kids
when he works, he's a hard,dependable worker
he absolutely adores his mom and dad
he is very family oriented
he can still act like a kid even though he is 41 years old
he goes to my sons grave when i can't be there
he introduced me to blues music
he likes to ride bikes
he has a beautiful smile
he has this side of him that noone else gets to see and it is such a crucial part of his personality, it's the lost, scared little boy that's always struggling to get out
he protects me
he is very charming
he has the gift of gab
he calls me his baby
he gets mad if someone hurts my feelings

Con:

he has a bad temper
he has cheated on me
he used to be physically violent with me
he doesn't trust me even though i have never given him a reason not to
he lies to me
he accuses me of cheating on him
he is jealous
he is controlling
he won't take the blame for ANYTHING
he turns everything around to make me look like the bad guy.
he talks shit about me to my friends to try and make them turn on me
he's not working right now and doesn't want to work
heflips out if i go somewhere and i am gone too long
he NEVER LISTENS TO ME
he always has to get his point accross but, when i try to say something he doesn't want to hear it
he is not interested in anything that i have to say
we don't have sex often enough
he doesn't care if i have an orgasm or not
he says the meanest,most hurtfull,un called for things just to hurt me.
he is a MAJOR flirt
he doesn't care if i make it to school or not
he doesn't help me with hardly anything
he is a slob
he gives away the gifts that i give him all the time
he doesn't care if he breaks something of mine
if he asks me to do something for him i always do it but, if i ask him to do something for me, forget it, he almost never does it or if he does it's a bithching session before, during, and after he does it
he is not affectionate
he doesn't know how to sit down and talk about our problems
he can't just listen to me when i tell him something that he did bothered me, he gets all defensive and has to defend himself instead of taking the blame and working towards fixing the problem
he kicks me out with all of my stuff knowing that i have no where to go
he tells me that i am a bad mom and that i couldn't even keep my kids with me
he tells me that i am not going to be able to succeed in college, that i am going to fail
he always puts me down
he never tries to make me laugh anymore
he is very negative, always saying how he hates this or he hates that
he has no goal for his future except for getting his money and partying on his house boat

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Submitted by nicoleswimm15 on Thu, 10/08/2009 - 20:34.

I think you have to answer the question ... Do you Trust him? ... if you do then give it a try. But it also sounds like there may be other choices with different pros/cons : )

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Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 10/26/2009 - 23:20.

I think that his behavior seems very scary--it is very in line with an abusive boyfriend.
Please look at this:

http://www.turningpointservices.org/Domestic%20Violence%20-%20Power%20an...

And remember that all violence isn't physical.

Also, some of your pros aren't necessarily pros considering how you look at them, like feeling safe. You may find more joy going out into the world and feeling a little risky--you may learn a lot about yourself that way.

Stay far

Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 03/24/2010 - 19:30.

Don't turn back. Delete him from your life quickly!

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