leave or stay in this unhappy marriage

makes me cry alot-
the very 1st time i met him i was crying
about something unrelated i would
think this would be a red flag to know that
iam a sensitive person.
the times we would argue id cry alot and he
would say that i was acting by pretending to cry
by now im guessing by the many tears that ive cried
he must get that iam sensitive..
he recently said that he doesnt want to be near me
when i cry and he cant talk to me when i cry

doesn't apoligize for hurting my feelings or making me cry-
didnt say he never has just that he doesn't do it my feelings
have been hurt alot and ive cried alot too

he may or may not be goin to jail for some years

doesn't value my thoughts or feelings

hurts my feelings verbaly-
says things hurtful during arguments like things that
could be easliy disscussed in a conversation thats something
that hasent changed, i have things
i dont say cause i dont want to hurt him ive always been that
way with him, like how the heck am i suppose to
know what im doing wrong if i even am doin it wrong if
he only tells me when hes angry
ive recently said to him in a argument balling my eyes out
why he couldnt just come talk to me about how he was feeling
instead of laying it all out hurting my feelings
he responded "saying i have to not say anything to spare your feelings"
not what i meant and he knew that..

he accuses me of doing things out of spite or of bad intentions
i tell him and try assure him thats not how i mean to do things but he
doesnt think so...
hes the kinda man who agrees its ok to put his hand on a woman
to phsically hurt her ive experianced it way more than once but i must say
its not often

not compassionate

doesn't say he loves me

doesn't appriciate what ive done to change or see
how ive changed

he made me a very insucure woman from the beginning
about my self by comenting on my body in a bad way

accusses me of lying when i havent been lying

trash talkin my family (mom&siblings)
they recently moved in from another city and there
staying with us i'm only trying to help them
& i have they now have a home and are waiting to move in
i admit i complained to him over the years
about them but duhh hes my man who else am i
to talk to?? they have there faults but at the end of the
day they will always be my family
he just recently made me feel so bad about them
being here i was goin to kick them out
but i couldnt...

doesnt try communicate with me and ive seriously tried

wont go to marraige councelling with me

bad sex-
only in the way that he reuses to give me that natural feeling
that i believe all married people should get (no condom)
doesnt want to risk getting me pregnant
this is a need for me sex isnt the same to me with a condom...
espcially that were married

doesn't have a job and hasent had one since he moved in
but he has macially paid bills and bought food

doesnt pay rent this sounds bad for me saying it but come
on were married isnt he suppose to be the provider i understand things
are messed up but he wanted to be married and be a father to his daughter
and my son which my son is not his but still im trying to wrok with him
but its been almost a year since he didnt get a job and be a full
provider, im thinking he should atleat provide before he goes away for
years and im here alone waiting for him...

reminds me of the past in arguments even though he told me not to
and i have stopped..

seems like alota cons more then pros im sure i can think of more cons and im not sure if its because im
still angry and sad with him that i cant think of the pros but i cant think of any more right now..