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My wife and I have been married for 10 yrs. We have 2 awesome boys (9 and5 yrs old) and for the most part of our marriage we have struggle with many issues that finally tool a toll on my wife. Her anger explored one day and there was physical abuse towards me. I had to call the authorities because my child was present during the incident and she couldn't control herself. She was arrested for domestic violence and an order of protection was issued. For an entire month she couldn't see me or the boys since we live very isolated from family. During this month she did not took responsibility for her actions and instead started to behave in a vindictive way. Still, up to a day before the incident she was telling me how much she loved me and how much she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. This rollercoaster of "I love you, I love you not" have been a vicious cycle that finally this incident was able to brake. But now, she is so angry at me that she doesn't want to be married anymore. The kids are devastated and I am lost without her. Not sure if my marriage is worth fighting for.
Pro:
At her best she is the most lovable and sensitive person I have ever known.
We have survived many ordeals together and always have found a way to move on.
She can be the sweetest person I know.
She is loyal.
We do love each other.
We have 2 beautiful kids and an modest home.
We have been each other's friend and support for many years.
The issues that divide us are not great, therefore we could, with help, overcome them.
I can not even imagine a future without her.
At her best she could be a great mom.
As a wife she is dutiful and very resourceful.
Great Sex
We laugh a lot together.
We both love the children very much.
We both share the same faith.
We have not given therapy or marriage counseling a fair chance.
Most of our challenges have been circunstantial.
Con:
A cycle of verbal abuse, emotional and lately physical(from her towards me) have been going on at leat every 6 months.
There is no trust in one another.
Harsh words have been said that have been devastating and not so easily retracted.
The kids have seen the arguing and altercations.
She has an anger problem.
Her family have been crucial in the deterioration of the marriage by giving her advice against it.
We have both made a great number of mistakes in the marriage repeatedly and usually we do not addressed them afterwards.
Horrible communication.
We are both very defensive towards each other.
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