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My first real relationship, lived together got a puppy did the whole adult thing. We broke up about a year and a half ago after 5 of his friends made our home their home away from home on the weekend and I worked two jobs and couldn’t take it anymore. We got together a few times here and there and talked about getting back together and changing things, but nothing ever came of it until recently. He was dating someone and came to me with some issues he had. A month or so went by and a few sad phone calls about missing each other and he comes back. I'm now in a relationship that seems serious and I don't know what to do. I can't imagine myself spending my life with anyone else but my ex but my new fling is semi- perfect on paper.
Pro:
We know each other like the back of our hands.
His family is huge and all accepted me as one of them.
He has a good job.
He is the only person I told myself I would marry.
Most of his friends are good friends of mine.
He can cook
He smells amazing
We have alot of fun together
He wants to marry
He wants to plan and have children
We like the same foods
He knows how to deal with my short temper.
Con:
His friends come first at all times
He parties four nights a week
He moved back into his parents house.
He doesn't want to share anything. What his is his and what mine is mine.
Alot of his friends are girls that he either had some druken thing with or they are just shady.
When we fight he will walk away before talking about it
He won't help with house work.
Always has an excuse for being late
Always has to have a friend around.
Con arguments
Nope
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 06/08/2010 - 03:25.
Every pro about him can also be found in another man, even the one about him being the only one you'd marry. Too many of those pros are personality related or things that have great potential to hurt you, either by his cheating on you from the partying or just you getting tired of constantly supporting him and putting up with his lifestyle. The pros are great but too many of those cons are things that I would never be able to stand.
Sorry
Submitted by Anonymous on Sun, 06/20/2010 - 12:33.
Yeah, it looks like most of your pro list doesn't list qualities about this person that are so unbelievable that makes me, the reader, believe this guy is amazing. Your con list however sheds a lot of light about who this guy really respects (his friends). If he is a man, and I mean a true man, he will carry you on his arm like you are his and profess to you his respect and love. He will provide for you and be someone that would give up anything for you as opposed to his selfish tendencies. And he will protect you and do anything for you to keep you out of harms way, including harming your feelings.
Your old flame seemed not to grow much since the last encounter including having little priority for you. You should really think long and hard before moving back together with him. Until then, good luck, keep your standards higher and remember that there is always something better out there....it's just up to you to decide if you want to find them.
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