Should I stay with my boyfriend?

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I am 22 and my boyfriend is 18. He has had a rough life, and therefore is much more mature than other men his age. He has been living with me and my family for a few months after his mother kicked him out of the house (for the second time for ridiculous reasons). She asks him for money a lot. We love each other very, very much, but we have some major differences that create conflict between us. We have been together for 8 months.

Pro: 

Very loving.
Protective in a sweet way.
Neat and clean.
Works hard when he is doing a job.
Is respectful of my mother, aunts, uncles, etc.
Attends family events and will socialize.
Very good with children, loves children.
Tells me I'm the most beautiful girl in the world, etc. Compliments my appearance frequently.
Wants me to come with him to hang out with his friends.
Thinks about the future, includes me.
Tells me I'm different from any other girl he's known.
We can just hang out in the house together without talking and enjoy it.
Holds me all the time, kisses on the forehead/cheek/hand, is very sweet even in front of others.
Never raises his voice or curses at me in anger or frustration.
Our physical relationship is good and "frequent."
Is starting college.

Con: 

*Is fickle about having a job, claims he is looking, but hasn't found employment, and it's been months.
*Spends money more frivolously than my family has raised me to, affects our relationship.
*Occasionally asks for help with money for essentials.
Somewhat unreliable when it comes to consistency with chores. Has to be asked and reminded. He lives here for free.
Will deploy with the army in two or three years.
His family dynamic is very unstable and unhealthy (I have no idea how he turned out so well, he keeps his distance when he can.)
Is very fearful that I will cheat on him. (Undeserved)
*Very sensitive to criticism. I am naturally very critical with high expectations.
Has a higher libido than I do.
Can be moody when he's feeling bad about himself or when we have an argument. Becomes withdrawn.
Does not like or get along with my closest friend and cousin.
Is very reserved and secretive unless I bring it to his attention that he's being that way.
Any conflict we have leaves him brooding and very distant until we completely resolve it.

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