stay or go

I married a man without really knowing him. Things started off great. He was sweet and funny and sexy and apparently in love with me. He is a citizen of another country and we are currently waiting on a visa to bring him here. We fight fairly often. He is controlling from a thousand miles away, throws tempter tantrums and then says that I am spoiled when I don't give into his fits. He says I need to gain weight, if I am not with him I will die alone, no one aside from him and someone with serious mental health problems could love me, I am a whore, I don't respect myself, I am just a child and that I need to grow up (I am 22 and he is 25).

He likes to give me tests which are meant to prove my love. I failed one and now he uses my mistake as a constant reminder to why I can't be trusted and why I am not the woman for him. He says he wants to get a divorce so I call his bluff and then he gets mad, hangs up and calls back about an hour later as if nothing happened and says he loves me.

I feel like part of our problems are the distance but we had problems when we were in the same place. He gets jealous of friends, family, and anything that takes me away from him. He wants me to start popping out babies so much so that we fight over contraception--he has even hid it from me.