toxic or madly in love?

I am in love with a man with a lot of the same relationship and personality traits as me. I am trying to put aside the fact that I am madly I love with this man and figure out if its possible to spend the rest of our lives together or will this just end up ending with us both having broken hearts?

Pro: 

makes me feel beautiful, helps my low self esteem

we have a great time laughing and having fun together a lot

he is honest

trustworthy

makes me laugh

not dull or boring

best sex I have ever had

good looking

makes me feel safe

smart

Con: 

he needs to feel like he's always in control

when we fight, he says horrible things to me

stubborn

not financially well off

spends a lot of time working out and making himself look good [could be a pro or a con)

has a need to always win an argument

doesn't see that he can be manipulative at times

hates my dog

Con arguments

Never put up with the negative

how can he help yourself esteem, yet he is quick to put you down during an argument? Dump.

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